Learn to lead groups that actually change lives
Evolutionary Men’s Group Facilitator Training
For men called to lead real transformation
You can feel when something real is happening
A man starts to open.
Or there’s conflict.
And you don’t quite know what to do.
Do you step in—or let it breathe?
You hesitate.
Or stay with the story too long.
You’re not sure how to involve the group without losing the energy.
You want to be sharper here—
not missing what’s actually happening, or what would move it.
Because there’s more going on than what’s being said.
You’re already in it.
But you’re not always sure what will actually create shift.
What This Training Really Is
Training in how to work these moments as they’re happening—
and not miss them.
You can feel when something’s starting to open.
Or when it’s about to disappear.
A man drifts into story.
The room goes flat.
No one quite names it.
Do you stay with it?
Or move?
Long enough for something real to break through—
but not so long the energy dies.
How to bring a man into something more honest and exposed—
without pushing him there,
and without feeding the pattern he’s already in.
What you do shifts the room.
Groups organize around what’s actually happening, not what’s being said.
Most people don’t see that.
You learn to track it,
and work from there.
So when you’re with one man,
the rest aren’t watching—
they’re in it.
What you’re developing
The ability to go below the level of story.
Not just what someone says—but what’s creating the experience.
You start to see:
- what’s actually driving him
- where he’s stuck
- what he’s avoiding
- what will move him
And from there, you can intervene in a way that actually creates shift.
Not more conversation.
Not insight that fades in a day or two.
Something that lands—and holds.
What changes over time
The patterns don’t change much.
Your ability to see them does.
You stop guessing.
You read what’s happening faster, more accurately, with less noise.
Even when things get charged, you stay clear enough to work.
Work with the group as a living system
Most facilitators focus on individuals.
You learn to work the room.
Where the group is open—or defended.
What dynamics are organizing it.
When it’s with you—and when it starts to drift.
And how to shift that by working with the system itself.
A clear evolutionary framework
Life isn’t getting in the way of growth.
It is the growth.
Challenges aren’t interruptions. They’re the path.
You learn how to help men meet what’s actually happening—
and move forward with clarity and direction.
What happens to the men you lead
You see it pretty quickly.
They stop avoiding what matters.
They have the conversations they’ve been putting off.
They move through patterns that have been running for years.
They repair faster.
They decide more cleanly.
They show up more directly.
More honest. More grounded.
Who This Is For
Men who feel called to lead—and want to get better at it.
You’ve done real work on yourself.
You can already feel where you’re not as effective as you want to be.
And you’re not interested in running something that just sounds good or feels supportive.
You want to be able to actually move people.
This is not for you if
You’re looking for something easy.
Or something that keeps things comfortable.
If you don’t want to be challenged directly, this won’t be a fit.
And if you’re not applying this in your own life, it won’t land.
Structure
- 9-month training
- Monday evenings, 6–8 PM
- 3 sessions per month
- In-person in Boulder
This container is long enough for real change to take root.
You’re expected to apply the work in your life as you go.
Start the conversation
This is for men oriented toward depth, evolution, forward movement, and real responsibility in men’s work.
If this resonates, reach out to explore fit.
Space is limited.
What people are saying…
Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s really going on and bring people back to what matters.
In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.
Jayson Gaddis
Host of The Smart Couple Podcast, Founder – The Relationship School™
Reuvain is one of the most skilled and gifted therapists and coaches I’ve known.
He has a laser-like focus and gets quickly to what’s actually driving the issue.
If you’re serious about doing real work, he’s someone you want in your corner.
Michael Vladeck
Family Coach and Counselor — Conscious Parenting In The Digital Age
Reuvain has supported me for over 20 years — including through some of the hardest periods in my marriage.
He doesn’t avoid what’s difficult. He helps you face it and work through it.
The result is real change in how you show up and how the relationship works.
Dr. Will Van Derveer, MD
Psychiatrist and Co-Founder of Integrative Psychiatric Institute, Boulder, CO
Reuvain brings a rare combination of real support and real challenge.
He sees where you’re holding back and calls you out of it — without losing connection.
That’s what actually creates change.
Dr. Pierre Brunschwig
Physician and Founder — Helios Integrated Medicine, Boulder, CO
Reuvain creates a level of trust that makes it possible to go into what’s actually difficult.
I’ve brought some of the hardest parts of my relationship to him and felt supported staying with it.
That’s what made real change possible.
Marco Chung-Shu La
Clinic Director and Acupuncturist, Mandala Integrative Medicine Clinic
The individual and group work that I have done with Reuvain has been an extraordinary and central part of my personal growth.
Rabbi Marc Soloway
Congregation Bonei Shalom, Boulder, CO