• You’ve built things.

    But something in your relationship, your life, or your purpose isn’t working anymore.
    Something essential is trying to emerge.

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Something keeps breaking down.

That threshold — the one you’re standing in right now — is where things can start to change.

You’re someone who shows up. At work, in your commitments, in the things that matter to you. You don’t half-ass things.

But in your relationship, something keeps breaking down. You try. You talk. You promise yourself it’ll be different. And then the same thing happens again.

You’ve probably already tried something. Therapy that didn’t feel like the right fit. Books that made sense but didn’t change what happened in the moment. Conversations that went in circles.

What’s been missing is a way to work with what actually happens when the pressure hits — and practical tools you can use differently in real time.

That’s what this is for.

Reuvain has supported me for over 20 years — including through some of the hardest periods in my marriage.

He has a gift for cutting through the noise and helping you see exactly what’s getting in the way. Clear, practical guidance that actually moves things forward.

If your marriage needs a real reset, Reuvain delivers.

DR. WILL VANDERVEER, MD

Psychiatrist and Co-Founder of Integrative Psychiatric Institute, and Co—Author of NYT Bestseller Psychedelic Psychotherapy

Where are you at right now?

I work with men at two distinct places in their life and relationship journey.

The Breaking Point

Your life or relationship has destabilized.

Separation is being threatened or has already gone down. Your work or health is falling apart. 

You don’t need sympathy. You need someone who can see what’s actually driving it, help you directly clarify what to do, and help you move fast. That’s what this track is for.

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The Evolution

Things in your life aren’t falling apart — but something important is missing.

The depth isn’t there. You’ve lost inspiration or direction. You know something in you needs to shift — in how you show up, in the gap between who you are and who you want to be.

You’re not in crisis. You’re at a growing edge. And you’re ready to shift what needs to move.

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Not therapy.

Direct coaching for what’s happening now.

You don’t need another place to talk in circles. You need help seeing what’s happening when the pressure hits, what you’re doing that keeps things stuck, and what to do differently.

We focus on the relationship, decisions, habits, and patterns showing up in your life now — with direct feedback and practical tools you can use immediately.

25

Years coaching men

1,000+

Men worked with

1,200+

Group sessions led

100+

retreats led

You start catching it earlier.

Sometimes right in the middle of it.

The same trigger fires — but you don’t get pulled in the same way. You can see what’s happening. You have more room to choose.

You learn how to relate differently. Be more honest. Stay more connected. The same loop stops cycling back.

Over time, you become steadier under pressure. Clearer in what matters. Less reactive to whatever is happening around you.

What working together looks like.

I work with a small number of men at a time. Every engagement starts with a conversation to make sure it’s the right fit — for both of us.

FORMAT

Weekly 1-hour coaching sessions — in person in Boulder, CO, remote, or 2.5-day intensive. Telegram voice note support between coaching sessions.

DURATION

Typically 3 or 6 months — calibrated to the depth of the work.

INVESTMENT

Discussed during your application conversation. This is a serious investment for men who are serious about real change.

AVAILABILITY

I work with a small number of private clients at a time. If you’re ready — apply below.

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Stop letting your relationship be the one area of your life you’re not fully showing up in.

You know how to commit to something when it matters. This is where it matters.

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What men say about the work

“Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s happening and bring people back to what matters. In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.”

Jayson Gaddis

Host of The Smart Couple Podcast, Founder – The Relationship School™

Reuvain is one of the most skilled and gifted coaches I’ve known.

He has a laser-like focus and gets quickly to what’s actually driving the issue.

If you’re serious about doing real work, he’s someone you want in your corner.

Michael Vladeck
Family Coach and Counselor — Conscious Parenting In The Digital Age

Reuvain has supported me for over 20 years — including through some of the hardest periods in my marriage.

He doesn’t avoid what’s difficult. He knows just how to coach you through it.

The result is real change in how you show up and how the relationship works.

Dr. Will Van Derveer, MD

Psychiatrist and Co-Founder of Integrative Psychiatric Institute, Boulder, CO

Reuvain brings a rare combination of real support and real challenge.

He sees where you’re holding back and calls you out of it — without losing connection.

That’s what actually creates change.

Dr. Pierre Brunschwig

Physician and Founder — Helios Integrated Medicine, Boulder, CO

Reuvain creates a level of trust that makes it possible to get to the other side of what’s actually difficult.

I’ve brought some of the hardest parts of my relationship to him and felt supported moving through to where I wanted to go. 

That’s what made real change possible.

Marco Chung-Shu La

Clinic Director and Acupuncturist, Mandala Integrative Medicine Clinic

The individual and group work that I have done with Reuvain has been an extraordinary and central part of my personal growth.

Rabbi Marc Soloway

Congregation Bonei Shalom, Boulder, CO

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