• When life gets hard, don’t do it alone

    Brotherhood for men ready to transform their relationships—and how they live

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The Evolutionary Men’s Tribe

When something isn’t working, it shows up in the places that matter most

You may be doing well in many areas of life.
But when things get hard, the same patterns still show up.

  • your relationship isn’t where you want it to be—and it’s not changing
  • something in your life isn’t working anymore, but you haven’t shifted it
  • things look fine on the outside, but underneath, something’s missing
  • you feel more alone than you want to admit
  • you’re disconnected from what actually matters to you
  • you know you’re capable of more—but you’re not showing up that way

Most men try to handle this alone.
They think harder, push more, or wait for things to change.

They usually don’t.

This is where that starts to change

The Evolutionary Men’s Tribe is a year-long brotherhood.

Eight men.
One committed group.
Real work, week after week.

Not surface-level conversation.
Not advice-giving.

This is a place where:

  • patterns become visible
  • truth gets clearer
  • and you begin to live differently—in your relationships and in your life

Evolve through challenge — together

The Tribe helped me go from burnt out and disconnected to present, healthy, and deeply connected — as a husband, father, and business leader.


— Dylan, Longmont / CEO, global technical services business

How we work

In the Tribe, you don’t just talk about change—you train it.

The work includes:

  • relationship-focused work—how you show up when it matters
  • direct group process
  • honest feedback from other men
  • emotional integration work
  • tools for working with limiting beliefs and distorted perceptions
  • purpose, values, and direction work
  • accountability between sessions

Week by week, the group becomes a place where your patterns show up—
and where you learn how to meet them differently.

How the year unfolds

Real change happens over time.

Over the course of the year, the work moves through a few clear stages:

Stage 1 — Clarity and Direction

Get clear on your values, purpose, and what your life is actually about—
and begin building a plan that reflects it.

Stage 2 — Honest Self-Inquiry

See the patterns that have been shaping your life—
often without you realizing it.

Stage 3 — Working with the Mind

Learn how to work directly with stressful thinking and distorted perception—
and shift it in real time.

Stage 4 — Emotional Integration

Stop avoiding or suppressing emotion.
Learn to work with it directly—so it stops running the show.

Stage 5 — Embodied Leadership

Show up differently—in your relationships and your life.
More honest. More responsible. More steady under pressure.

By the end of the year, most men are living with more clarity, stronger direction, and a real sense of alignment between who they are and how they live.

What begins to change

Men who fully engage in the Tribe often experience:

  • more honesty and emotional clarity
  • stronger, more connected relationships
  • the end of long-standing personal and relational patterns
  • more steadiness under pressure
  • clearer direction in work, purpose, and life
  • real belonging with other men

Over time, many men find themselves becoming more grounded, more relationally skillful, and more aligned with the life they want to live.

Why the tribe works

Most men try to change alone.

Without challenge, reflection, support, and accountability, patterns repeat.

The Tribe creates a container where:

  • honesty replaces avoidance
  • feedback replaces blind spots
  • brotherhood replaces isolation
  • commitment replaces drift

Within that container, meaningful change accelerates.

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Who this is for

  • men ready to take responsibility for their lives and relationships
  • men willing to bring honesty, courage, and heart
  • men willing to face the discomfort real development requires
  • men moving through a difficult transition
  • men who know there is more depth, alignment, and freedom possible in how they live

Not for men who

  • believe lone-wolfing will get them where they want to go
  • prioritize comfort over growth and truth
  • resist feedback or challenge
  • avoid the commitment required for real change
  • are invested in maintaining a victim identity rather than stepping into responsibility

The details

Length: 11 months

Format: Weekly 2-hour in-person sessions (Boulder, CO)

Retreats: Four seasonal weekend retreat intensives

Accountability: Partner check-ins and coaching support

Private Coaching: Quarterly one-on-one sessions with Reuvain

Cohort Size: Limited to 8 men

Meeting Day: Thursdays evenings

Starts: late May

The application process

The Tribe is intentionally limited to a small number of men.

Before joining, we begin with a conversation to explore whether this is the right fit, and you answer the application questions.

We’re looking for men who are genuinely ready for the work—and for the level of honesty and commitment the group requires.

When the right men come together, the work goes deep.

If something in you recognizes this path, you’re invited to begin the conversation.

Stop repeating what isn’t working

You already know the cost of holding it all alone.

This is where you learn how to show up differently—
in your relationships, and in your life.

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What people are saying…

Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s really going on and bring people back to what matters.

In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.

Jayson Gaddis

Host of The Smart Couple Podcast, Founder – The Relationship School™

Reuvain is one of the most skilled and gifted therapists and coaches I’ve known.

He has a laser-like focus and gets quickly to what’s actually driving the issue.

If you’re serious about doing real work, he’s someone you want in your corner.

Michael Vladeck
Family Coach and Counselor — Conscious Parenting In The Digital Age

Reuvain has supported me for over 20 years — including through some of the hardest periods in my marriage.

He doesn’t avoid what’s difficult. He helps you face it and work through it.

The result is real change in how you show up and how the relationship works.

Dr. Will Van Derveer, MD

Psychiatrist and Co-Founder of Integrative Psychiatric Institute, Boulder, CO

Reuvain brings a rare combination of real support and real challenge.

He sees where you’re holding back and calls you out of it — without losing connection.

That’s what actually creates change.

Dr. Pierre Brunschwig

Physician and Founder — Helios Integrated Medicine, Boulder, CO

Reuvain creates a level of trust that makes it possible to go into what’s actually difficult.

I’ve brought some of the hardest parts of my relationship to him and felt supported staying with it.

That’s what made real change possible.

Marco Chung-Shu La

Clinic Director and Acupuncturist, Mandala Integrative Medicine Clinic

The individual and group work that I have done with Reuvain has been an extraordinary and central part of my personal growth.

Rabbi Marc Soloway

Congregation Bonei Shalom, Boulder, CO

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