You’ve built the life.
But something‘s unraveling, shifting, or calling you deeper.
I help you step into what’s trying to emerge.
You’ve built the life.
Whether you’re trying to save your marriage, find your footing after it’s fallen apart, or step into something deeper that’s been calling — this work was built for that moment. And it will take you somewhere real.
“Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s really going on and bring people back to what matters. In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.”
JAYSON GADDIS
Host of the Smart Couple Podcast,
Founder—The Relationship School
What keeps running things.
Old beliefs about how things are. Perceptions that are off. The distorted picture driving your reactions before you’ve decided anything. The feelings you haven’t metabolized.
As long as that stays unaddressed, the same dynamic keeps running things.
This isn’t therapy.
I’ve been blending psychotherapy with evolutionary coaching for nearly thirty years. The work is deep — and direct.
When relationship issues are driving things — and they often are — we work with attachment dynamics and nervous system regulation. Most men have never had anyone explain what’s actually happening between them and their partner at that level.
We get there fast. Without years of processing or excavating your history. We work with what’s happening right now — in your body, in your beliefs, in your perception. That’s where the pattern is alive. That’s where it can actually be changed.
Ways to work together
If you’re ready to go deep 1:1:
1:1 Coaching
When something specific isn’t working and you want to get to the bottom of it now. This is where most men start, especially when something needs to shift quickly. Learn more →
If you want brothers alongside you:
Evolutionary Man Group
There’s something that happens in a room full of men doing real work that doesn’t happen alone. Patterns become visible. What shifts tends to stick — because it happened in front of people who saw the whole thing. Learn more →
The Threshold Retreat
Two and a half days at the threshold. A small group of men. Direct, deep work in a container built for real change. Learn more →
Yearlong Evolutionary Men’s Tribe
The deepest container. For men in a major passage who are ready to let it change them completely. Learn more →
If you want to work on the relationship together:
Relationship Coaching
When the relationship matters — but you keep ending up in the same place together.
We get underneath the conflict — working directly with the attachment dynamics and nervous system patterns driving it. You’ll understand not just what keeps going wrong, but exactly why. And you’ll leave with real tools to work with it. Learn more →
What men say about the work
Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s really going on and bring people back to what matters.
In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.
Jayson Gaddis
Host of The Smart Couple Podcast, Founder – The Relationship School™
Reuvain is one of the most skilled and gifted therapists and coaches I’ve known.
He has a laser-like focus and gets quickly to what’s actually driving the issue.
If you’re serious about doing real work, he’s someone you want in your corner.
Michael Vladeck
Family Coach and Counselor — Conscious Parenting In The Digital Age
Reuvain has supported me for over 20 years — including through some of the hardest periods in my marriage.
He doesn’t avoid what’s difficult. He helps you face it and work through it.
The result is real change in how you show up and how the relationship works.
Dr. Will Van Derveer, MD
Psychiatrist and Co-Founder of Integrative Psychiatric Institute, Boulder, CO
Reuvain brings a rare combination of real support and real challenge.
He sees where you’re holding back and calls you out of it — without losing connection.
That’s what actually creates change.
Dr. Pierre Brunschwig
Physician and Founder — Helios Integrated Medicine, Boulder, CO
Reuvain creates a level of trust that makes it possible to go into what’s actually difficult.
I’ve brought some of the hardest parts of my relationship to him and felt supported staying with it.
That’s what made real change possible.
Marco Chung-Shu La
Clinic Director and Acupuncturist, Mandala Integrative Medicine Clinic
The individual and group work that I have done with Reuvain has been an extraordinary and central part of my personal growth.
Rabbi Marc Soloway
Congregation Bonei Shalom, Boulder, CO