You’ve built a lot.
But something‘s unraveling, shifting, or calling you deeper.
We help you move through and step into what’s trying to emerge.
You’ve built a lot.
You may be struggling with your relationship, finding your footing after a divorce, or facing a major change in your work or sense of who you are. Or you may be looking for more meaning and purpose, feeling called to grow beyond the way you’ve been living.
We work with what you’re facing and the patterns that keep you stuck, helping you make a deeper shift in how you relate to yourself, the people you love, and your life.
“Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s happening and bring people back to what matters. In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.”
JAYSON GADDIS
Host of the Smart Couple Podcast,
Founder—The Relationship School
What keeps running things.
You can understand a problem and still keep repeating it.
Under pressure, familiar reactions take over. You read the situation a certain way, respond the way you’ve responded before, and end up in the same place.
The work is learning to recognize that earlier — and having more choice about what you do next.
The work we do together
I help you work through the places where life has become painful, confusing, or stuck. A relationship in trouble. A major transition. The realization that the life you’ve built no longer fits who you’re becoming.
We get into what’s really happening. I help you see the patterns that are running things, question the beliefs that keep you caught, moving through the things that can be hard to face on your own. I bring warmth, directness, and antidotes to the obstacles keeping you from living fully into what’s next.
This is evolutionary coaching. We work with the challenge in front of you while also listening for what it’s asking you to develop. What needs to change? What matters now? Who are you becoming, and how do you begin living that?
Sometimes that means a breakthrough in your relationship: saying what you haven’t been able to say, understanding each other differently, finding a way through conflict. Sometimes it means making a difficult decision or finding your footing when your old life is falling away.
And through that work, there’s room for something deeper: more awareness, a fuller connection with yourself, a clearer sense of meaning, and more peace with your life.
Ways to work together
Deep and direct 1:1:
1:1 Coaching
Understand what’s happening and start changing how you respond to it. This is where most men start, especially when something needs to shift quickly. Learn more →
If you’re ready to stop trying to do this on your own…
Evolutionary Man Group
There’s something that happens in a room full of men doing real work that doesn’t happen alone. Patterns become visible. What shifts tends to stick — because it happened in front of people who saw the whole thing. Learn more →
The Threshold Retreat
Two and a half days at the threshold. A small group of men. Direct, deep work in a container built for real change. Learn more →
9-Month Evolutionary Men’s Tribe
The deepest container. For men in a major passage who are ready to move through into a new way of doing things. Learn more →
If you want to work on the relationship:
Relationship Coaching
When the relationship matters — but you keep ending up in the same place together.
We work with what happens between you when things get hard — the reactions, communication patterns, and missed repairs that keep sending you back into the same conflict.
You’ll learn to recognize it earlier, stay connected longer, repair faster, and respond differently when the pressure is actually happening.
What men say about the work
Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s really going on and bring people back to what matters.
In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.
Jayson Gaddis
Host of The Smart Couple Podcast, Founder – The Relationship School™
Reuvain is one of the most skilled and gifted coaches I’ve known.
He has a laser-like focus and gets quickly to what’s actually driving the issue.
If you’re serious about doing real work, he’s someone you want in your corner.
Michael Vladeck
Family Coach and Counselor — Conscious Parenting In The Digital Age
Reuvain has supported me for over 20 years — including through some of the hardest periods in my marriage.
He doesn’t avoid what’s difficult. He helps you face it and work through it.
The result is real change in how you show up and how the relationship works.
Dr. Will Van Derveer, MD
Psychiatrist and Co-Founder of Integrative Psychiatric Institute, Boulder, CO
Reuvain brings a rare combination of real support and real challenge.
He sees where you’re holding back and calls you out of it — without losing connection.
That’s what actually creates change.
Dr. Pierre Brunschwig
Physician and Founder — Helios Integrated Medicine, Boulder, CO
Reuvain creates a level of trust that makes it possible to get to the other side of what’s actually difficult.
I’ve brought some of the hardest parts of my relationship to him and felt supported moving through to where I wanted to go.
That’s what made real change possible.
Marco Chung-Shu Lam
Clinic Director and Acupuncturist, Mandala Integrative Medicine Clinic
The individual and group work that I have done with Reuvain has been an extraordinary and central part of my personal growth.
Rabbi Marc Soloway
Congregation Bonei Shalom, Boulder, CO