Your life works. That’s not the problem.
In your relationship.
Under pressure.
When something actually matters.
Something still takes over.
You can see it. It’s still not changing.
Not everywhere. Just where it matters.
At work, you’re solid.
You handle pressure.
You show up.
But in your relationship—
or when something’s on the line—
You react.
You tighten.
Sometimes you push. Sometimes you shut down.
It costs you. And afterward, you can see it clearly.
But in the moment, it runs the show.
And you’re right back in it.
That moment happens fast.
You feel it starting—
and then you’re already in it.
Your body reacts.
Your thinking tightens.
And what you know… is gone.
That’s why it keeps happening.
That’s where we work. Right there.
In that moment.
Not after.
Not once it’s over.
While it’s happening.
That’s how it changes.
So you don’t get taken over the same way.
So you stay present when it matters.
This is for you if…
- You’re successful in your life, but something isn’t working in your relationship
- You hit the same patterns under pressure
- You’ve done work on yourself, but it’s not shifting where it matters
- You want real change, not more insight
Ways to work together
1:1 Coaching
For when something isn’t working
and you want to get right into it.
Direct, in-the-moment work
focused on what’s actually happening —
not just talking about it later.
Relationship Coaching
For when your relationship matters
but you keep getting pulled into the same patterns.
Learn how to stay on the same team
even when things get hard.
Men’s Groups & Retreats
For when you know this won’t shift on your own.
Work alongside other men —
being seen, challenged, and held to a higher standard
in real time.
If this is hitting, let’s look at it together.
30-minute conversation.
We’ll look at what’s happening and which direction makes the most sense.
No pressure if it’s not a fit.
He gets to the root fast — and things actually shift in the moment.
— Jayson Gaddis
Host of The Smart Couple Podcast
What people are saying…
Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s really going on and bring people back to what matters.
In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.
Jayson Gaddis
Host of The Smart Couple Podcast, Founder – The Relationship School™
Reuvain is one of the most skilled and gifted therapists and coaches I’ve known.
He has a laser-like focus and gets quickly to what’s actually driving the issue.
If you’re serious about doing real work, he’s someone you want in your corner.
Michael Vladeck
Family Coach and Counselor — Conscious Parenting In The Digital Age
Reuvain has supported me for over 20 years — including through some of the hardest periods in my marriage.
He doesn’t avoid what’s difficult. He helps you face it and work through it.
The result is real change in how you show up and how the relationship works.
Dr. Will Van Derveer, MD
Psychiatrist and Co-Founder of Integrative Psychiatric Institute, Boulder, CO
Reuvain brings a rare combination of real support and real challenge.
He sees where you’re holding back and calls you out of it — without losing connection.
That’s what actually creates change.
Dr. Pierre Brunschwig
Physician and Founder — Helios Integrated Medicine, Boulder, CO
Reuvain creates a level of trust that makes it possible to go into what’s actually difficult.
I’ve brought some of the hardest parts of my relationship to him and felt supported staying with it.
That’s what made real change possible.
Marco Chung-Shu La
Clinic Director and Acupuncturist, Mandala Integrative Medicine Clinic
The individual and group work that I have done with Reuvain has been an extraordinary and central part of my personal growth.
Rabbi Marc Soloway
Congregation Bonei Shalom, Boulder, CO