You’ve built a lot.
But something‘s unraveling, shifting, or calling you deeper.
We help you move through and step into what’s trying to emerge.
You’ve built a lot.
Whether you’re trying to save your relationship, find your footing after it’s fallen apart, or step into something deeper that’s been calling — this work was built for that moment. And it will take you somewhere real.
“Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s happening and bring people back to what matters. In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.”
JAYSON GADDIS
Host of the Smart Couple Podcast,
Founder—The Relationship School
What keeps running things.
You can understand a problem and still keep repeating it.
Under pressure, familiar reactions take over. You read the situation a certain way, respond the way you’ve responded before, and end up in the same place.
The work is learning to recognize that earlier — and having more choice about what you do next.
This is Coaching.
The work is direct, practical, and focused on what’s happening in your life now.
We look at the patterns showing up in your relationships, decisions, and behavior. You get clear feedback, tools to use in the moment, and practice responding differently when the pressure is actually there.
When the relationship is the issue, we work with things like communication, conflict, repair, staying connected under pressure, and recognizing the reactions that keep sending you back into the same dynamic.
Not years of analyzing your history.
We work with what’s happening now — and what you can do differently with it.
Ways to work together
Deep and direct 1:1:
1:1 Coaching
Understand what’s happening and start changing how you respond to it. This is where most men start, especially when something needs to shift quickly. Learn more →
If you’re ready to stop trying to do this on your own…
Evolutionary Man Group
There’s something that happens in a room full of men doing real work that doesn’t happen alone. Patterns become visible. What shifts tends to stick — because it happened in front of people who saw the whole thing. Learn more →
The Threshold Retreat
Two and a half days at the threshold. A small group of men. Direct, deep work in a container built for real change. Learn more →
9-Month Evolutionary Men’s Tribe
The deepest container. For men in a major passage who are ready to move through into a new way of doing things. Learn more →
If you want to work on the relationship together:
Relationship Coaching
When the relationship matters — but you keep ending up in the same place together.
We work with what happens between you when things get hard — the reactions, communication patterns, and missed repairs that keep sending you back into the same conflict.
You’ll learn to recognize it earlier, stay connected longer, repair faster, and respond differently when the pressure is actually happening.
What men say about the work
Reuvain has a rare ability to see what’s really going on and bring people back to what matters.
In couples, men’s work, and groups, he creates real movement — not just insight.
Jayson Gaddis
Host of The Smart Couple Podcast, Founder – The Relationship School™
Reuvain is one of the most skilled and gifted coaches I’ve known.
He has a laser-like focus and gets quickly to what’s actually driving the issue.
If you’re serious about doing real work, he’s someone you want in your corner.
Michael Vladeck
Family Coach and Counselor — Conscious Parenting In The Digital Age
Reuvain has supported me for over 20 years — including through some of the hardest periods in my marriage.
He doesn’t avoid what’s difficult. He helps you face it and work through it.
The result is real change in how you show up and how the relationship works.
Dr. Will Van Derveer, MD
Psychiatrist and Co-Founder of Integrative Psychiatric Institute, Boulder, CO
Reuvain brings a rare combination of real support and real challenge.
He sees where you’re holding back and calls you out of it — without losing connection.
That’s what actually creates change.
Dr. Pierre Brunschwig
Physician and Founder — Helios Integrated Medicine, Boulder, CO
Reuvain creates a level of trust that makes it possible to get to the other side of what’s actually difficult.
I’ve brought some of the hardest parts of my relationship to him and felt supported moving through to where I wanted to go.
That’s what made real change possible.
Marco Chung-Shu Lam
Clinic Director and Acupuncturist, Mandala Integrative Medicine Clinic
The individual and group work that I have done with Reuvain has been an extraordinary and central part of my personal growth.
Rabbi Marc Soloway
Congregation Bonei Shalom, Boulder, CO